theWILLmckoy
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Post by theWILLmckoy on Oct 15, 2015 12:47:24 GMT -5
Been helping my mom out a lil lately and it's like I can't tolerate her very much. She can very annoying, she's always singing a sad song about her life thus far and it really irks me. I'm sure there are things she can't stand about me too, but I really try not to get her nerves. I do feel like in too arrogant and nonchalant around her. I need learn to humble myself, but some things she does are irritants.
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craig440
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Post by craig440 on Oct 15, 2015 18:29:22 GMT -5
No. Never really knew my biological sperm donor, three step fathers have passed away. My awesome mom is 80 and can get cranky sometimes but very nice most of the time. She gave us a scare recently that she was losing her mind. She's made a miraculous recovery. Realize your parents will not be here forever. Try and appreciate them. Maybe you could help your mom to have a better outlook on her life. If she has had a rough past, maybe you could convince her the future could be better. Sing a happy song.
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Post by Divebitch on Oct 15, 2015 19:20:32 GMT -5
You didn't mean to, but your post has really upset me. Unless you mom is a total witch, there will come a day, if you're lucky enough to live that long, that you would give almost anything for one more day with her. My mom had many a sad song, sadder than the average person could fathom, much less handle. I feel lucky to shoulder a billionth of her burden and for the very highly improbable life she has given me, and raising me right, the best they could.
EDIT: No she wasn't perfect, and highly annoyed me as well, well into adulthood. It's not easy carrying that today.
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theWILLmckoy
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Post by theWILLmckoy on Oct 15, 2015 19:35:34 GMT -5
Thanks for the perspective and insight, I appreciate it.
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Post by Jindred on Oct 16, 2015 16:43:01 GMT -5
I am very lucky and I get along with my parents well. My Dad is one of my best friends, and I love my Mom to death. With that said, yes my parents annoy the shit out of me from time to time. The same can be said for.. anyone in my life. Saskabronco (my brother) is my best friend in the world, and I wouldn't trade him being my brother/friend for anything, but there are times I want to hit him over the head. My oldest brother is another person I consider a friend, there are many times where I don't even want to talk to him, right now being one of those times.. My 95 year old Grandmother irks me to no end often, both of my sister in-laws get on my nerves from time to time, aunts, uncles, cousins, friends and so on and so forth all get on my nerves.
Everyone in the world is going to do something at some point that is going to aggravate you, IMO its just part of life, we are all different and we don't always mesh as well as we would like, especially when it comes to family who are people we didn't exactly choose to be in our life. My deal is, I know I probably aggravate each of those people as much as they do me, I'm not perfect, but I am me and I am not going to change to try and please them, by the same token I don't expect them to change because they aren't gonna. I love my family, and I care about them a ton, so I accept them as they are, all their quirks and annoyances and all their oddities. That's the key to any good relationship whether it be friendship, family or love life is to accept the person as they are and not want them to change. As soon as you can do that, it becomes a lot easier to deal with the annoying things they do, and a lot more enjoyable to be in their company.
My best advice comes from how I deal with my Grandmother. Accept her as she is, realize that she isn't going to change no matter how much you wish she wouldn't do the things that annoy you and deal with her from a place of love. The reason you are there to help her out is cause you love her right?
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Post by saskabronco on Oct 17, 2015 8:16:41 GMT -5
I am very lucky and I get along with my parents well. My Dad is one of my best friends, and I love my Mom to death. With that said, yes my parents annoy the shit out of me from time to time. The same can be said for.. anyone in my life. Saskabronco (my brother) is my best friend in the world, and I wouldn't trade him being my brother/friend for anything, but there are times I want to hit him over the head. My oldest brother is another person I consider a friend, there are many times where I don't even want to talk to him, right now being one of those times.. My 95 year old Grandmother irks me to no end often, both of my sister in-laws get on my nerves from time to time, aunts, uncles, cousins, friends and so on and so forth all get on my nerves. Everyone in the world is going to do something at some point that is going to aggravate you, IMO its just part of life, we are all different and we don't always mesh as well as we would like, especially when it comes to family who are people we didn't exactly choose to be in our life. My deal is, I know I probably aggravate each of those people as much as they do me, I'm not perfect, but I am me and I am not going to change to try and please them, by the same token I don't expect them to change because they aren't gonna. I love my family, and I care about them a ton, so I accept them as they are, all their quirks and annoyances and all their oddities. That's the key to any good relationship whether it be friendship, family or love life is to accept the person as they are and not want them to change. As soon as you can do that, it becomes a lot easier to deal with the annoying things they do, and a lot more enjoyable to be in their company. My best advice comes from how I deal with my Grandmother. Accept her as she is, realize that she isn't going to change no matter how much you wish she wouldn't do the things that annoy you and deal with her from a place of love. The reason you are there to help her out is cause you love her right? Why do you come here and say that to my face, brah? (Secretly I just miss my brother/best friend and want you to come visit. If that means I need to take a shot on the head, then so be it.) theWILLmckoyMy wife and I just moved several thousand kilometres away from all of my family and friends. I'm currently going through a very difficult time. Schooling in my new city has not worked out thanks to transfer credits, money issues, and various other troubles, so now I am stuck jobless in a city with very few decent opportunities for work, despite the fact that I have been searching and applying for jobs like crazy and am very qualified to work in several fields. I've been bordering on depression for the last several weeks and am fighting to get the motivation just to leave the house. The best part of my days is when I get to interact with my family and friends, whether it is via Skype, Facebook, online gaming, etc. Sure, some of my family and friends can be annoying at times; but having them available to interact with is still the best part of my days. I can never say enough about the people I love most in this world. Without them, the world is a much darker place. If I my wife wasn't also here with me, I would be a complete wreck.
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theWILLmckoy
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Post by theWILLmckoy on Oct 17, 2015 9:49:51 GMT -5
I am very lucky and I get along with my parents well. My Dad is one of my best friends, and I love my Mom to death. With that said, yes my parents annoy the shit out of me from time to time. The same can be said for.. anyone in my life. Saskabronco (my brother) is my best friend in the world, and I wouldn't trade him being my brother/friend for anything, but there are times I want to hit him over the head. My oldest brother is another person I consider a friend, there are many times where I don't even want to talk to him, right now being one of those times.. My 95 year old Grandmother irks me to no end often, both of my sister in-laws get on my nerves from time to time, aunts, uncles, cousins, friends and so on and so forth all get on my nerves. Everyone in the world is going to do something at some point that is going to aggravate you, IMO its just part of life, we are all different and we don't always mesh as well as we would like, especially when it comes to family who are people we didn't exactly choose to be in our life. My deal is, I know I probably aggravate each of those people as much as they do me, I'm not perfect, but I am me and I am not going to change to try and please them, by the same token I don't expect them to change because they aren't gonna. I love my family, and I care about them a ton, so I accept them as they are, all their quirks and annoyances and all their oddities. That's the key to any good relationship whether it be friendship, family or love life is to accept the person as they are and not want them to change. As soon as you can do that, it becomes a lot easier to deal with the annoying things they do, and a lot more enjoyable to be in their company. My best advice comes from how I deal with my Grandmother. Accept her as she is, realize that she isn't going to change no matter how much you wish she wouldn't do the things that annoy you and deal with her from a place of love. The reason you are there to help her out is cause you love her right? Why do you come here and say that to my face, brah? (Secretly I just miss my brother/best friend and want you to come visit. If that means I need to take a shot on the head, then so be it.) theWILLmckoyMy wife and I just moved several thousand kilometres away from all of my family and friends. I'm currently going through a very difficult time. Schooling in my new city has not worked out thanks to transfer credits, money issues, and various other troubles, so now I am stuck jobless in a city with very few decent opportunities for work, despite the fact that I have been searching and applying for jobs like crazy and am very qualified to work in several fields. I've been bordering on depression for the last several weeks and am fighting to get the motivation just to leave the house. The best part of my days is when I get to interact with my family and friends, whether it is via Skype, Facebook, online gaming, etc. Sure, some of my family and friends can be annoying at times; but having them available to interact with is still the best part of my days. I can never say enough about the people I love most in this world. Without them, the world is a much darker place. If I my wife wasn't also here with me, I would be a complete wreck. I dig it bro. I definitely need to treasure my family more....
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theWILLmckoy
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Post by theWILLmckoy on Oct 17, 2015 9:57:11 GMT -5
I am very lucky and I get along with my parents well. My Dad is one of my best friends, and I love my Mom to death. With that said, yes my parents annoy the shit out of me from time to time. The same can be said for.. anyone in my life. Saskabronco (my brother) is my best friend in the world, and I wouldn't trade him being my brother/friend for anything, but there are times I want to hit him over the head. My oldest brother is another person I consider a friend, there are many times where I don't even want to talk to him, right now being one of those times.. My 95 year old Grandmother irks me to no end often, both of my sister in-laws get on my nerves from time to time, aunts, uncles, cousins, friends and so on and so forth all get on my nerves. Everyone in the world is going to do something at some point that is going to aggravate you, IMO its just part of life, we are all different and we don't always mesh as well as we would like, especially when it comes to family who are people we didn't exactly choose to be in our life. My deal is, I know I probably aggravate each of those people as much as they do me, I'm not perfect, but I am me and I am not going to change to try and please them, by the same token I don't expect them to change because they aren't gonna. I love my family, and I care about them a ton, so I accept them as they are, all their quirks and annoyances and all their oddities. That's the key to any good relationship whether it be friendship, family or love life is to accept the person as they are and not want them to change. As soon as you can do that, it becomes a lot easier to deal with the annoying things they do, and a lot more enjoyable to be in their company. My best advice comes from how I deal with my Grandmother. Accept her as she is, realize that she isn't going to change no matter how much you wish she wouldn't do the things that annoy you and deal with her from a place of love. The reason you are there to help her out is cause you love her right? More solid advice and insight...I need to just learn to relax and enjoy the people GOD put in my life.
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theWILLmckoy
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Post by theWILLmckoy on Oct 17, 2015 9:57:44 GMT -5
And wow I didn't know you guys were brothers!
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Post by saskabronco on Oct 17, 2015 10:46:11 GMT -5
Why do you come here and say that to my face, brah? (Secretly I just miss my brother/best friend and want you to come visit. If that means I need to take a shot on the head, then so be it.) theWILLmckoyMy wife and I just moved several thousand kilometres away from all of my family and friends. I'm currently going through a very difficult time. Schooling in my new city has not worked out thanks to transfer credits, money issues, and various other troubles, so now I am stuck jobless in a city with very few decent opportunities for work, despite the fact that I have been searching and applying for jobs like crazy and am very qualified to work in several fields. I've been bordering on depression for the last several weeks and am fighting to get the motivation just to leave the house. The best part of my days is when I get to interact with my family and friends, whether it is via Skype, Facebook, online gaming, etc. Sure, some of my family and friends can be annoying at times; but having them available to interact with is still the best part of my days. I can never say enough about the people I love most in this world. Without them, the world is a much darker place. If I my wife wasn't also here with me, I would be a complete wreck. I dig it bro. I definitely need to treasure my family more.... I don't think family deserves respect purely because they are family though. I mean if your family were all terrible people, then by all means don't treasure them. I believe you get to choose who you consider family. But if you love them (like you clearly love your mother, since you're around helping her out often) then it sure seems like you see something in her worth treasuring. Best wishes to you and your family.
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