theWILLmckoy
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WE LIVE AS KINGS, BUT JESUS IS GOD! - Swoope
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Post by theWILLmckoy on May 7, 2015 18:11:20 GMT -5
I don't have her address, so that wouldn't be possible, but that's not a terrible idea. I've thought of sending her more flowers for Mother's Day, I don't want to send them to her job. I just wish I had another shot you know? I mean, yeah I might've been a pest, but atleast I was kind pest...hahahaha.... I would really strongly suggest not sending her anything. I agree with 101mitch that you gotta do your own thing, but she seems to be put off right now by the amount of attention you have given her, and I think giving more will do nothing but drive her further away. You gotta read the signals she is giving you, and right now it seems to be a back off signal, if you do anything like send flowers or a card, its gonna start seeming stalkerish. I think an issue you are facing, is that you are just getting out of a long committed relationship, and you have likely forgotten how to keep things light at the beginning of a new relationship. Most people aren't looking for intense commitment right away, they want to keep it light and fun, and then if they find that they might have something after a bit they will start getting more invested. What you know right now is the invested part, and from the little I get from what you say you seem to be jumping straight to that. My recommendation, take it for what its worth. Just back right off for a while, try and turn down the intensity level a little bit, get used to being single, then try a few really casual dates. Then maybe at some point a few months down the road if you still want to try it out with this girl, contact her with something along the lines of. "Hey there, how are things? I just wanted to say sorry for the way I acted, as you know I was just getting out of a long term relationship and I was still in that mode, so I got a little intense at the prospect of a relationship." Although it should be in your words, heartfelt and better said lol. Then if she responds you can go from there. That of course is purely just a recommendations, you gotta do what you gotta do. Very sound advice. Im definitely gonna back off. I think down the line I'll contact her, but maybe I won't. It just depends on how things are going for me later his summer...I love the idea of catching up with her, hopefully she's still single lol! But seriously, I'm gonna do my best to let it go.
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theWILLmckoy
Heisman Candidate
WE LIVE AS KINGS, BUT JESUS IS GOD! - Swoope
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Post by theWILLmckoy on May 13, 2015 11:26:58 GMT -5
So I've totally let go and tried to forget about Janell. I feel much better than I did last week! GOD is great folks! I walked away from him for a lil while and my responsibilities as a husband, but his grace has allowed me to come back home and reconcile with my wifey! I should've never allowed my lust to lead me and away so easily and tear down all I had! I'm now fully invested in repairing my marriage and, with the help of the Lord, mend my wife's broken heart. Thank you all for your input and advice.
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Post by steelers54 on May 13, 2015 11:37:16 GMT -5
So I've totally let go and tried to forget about Janell. I feel much better than I did last week! GOD is great folks! I walked away from him for a lil while and my responsibilities as a husband, but his grace has allowed me to come back home and reconcile with my wifey! I should've never allowed my lust to lead me and away so easily and tear down all I had! I'm now fully invested in repairing my marriage and, with the help of the Lord, mend my wife's broken heart. Thank you all for your input and advice. Glad to hear you are doing much better, sometimes we go looking for something and miss the fact that it's been there all along we were just too blinded to see it. I wish you nothing but the best in repairing your marriage.
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Post by Jancey on May 13, 2015 11:46:37 GMT -5
So I've totally let go and tried to forget about Janell. I feel much better than I did last week! GOD is great folks! I walked away from him for a lil while and my responsibilities as a husband, but his grace has allowed me to come back home and reconcile with my wifey! I should've never allowed my lust to lead me and away so easily and tear down all I had! I'm now fully invested in repairing my marriage and, with the help of the Lord, mend my wife's broken heart. Thank you all for your input and advice. I know I haven't posted in this thread before, but this makes me so happy to hear. I wish you and your wife the best and hope y'all have a better marriage than ever before. Don't give up.
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theWILLmckoy
Heisman Candidate
WE LIVE AS KINGS, BUT JESUS IS GOD! - Swoope
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Post by theWILLmckoy on May 13, 2015 14:01:27 GMT -5
So I've totally let go and tried to forget about Janell. I feel much better than I did last week! GOD is great folks! I walked away from him for a lil while and my responsibilities as a husband, but his grace has allowed me to come back home and reconcile with my wifey! I should've never allowed my lust to lead me and away so easily and tear down all I had! I'm now fully invested in repairing my marriage and, with the help of the Lord, mend my wife's broken heart. Thank you all for your input and advice. Glad to hear you are doing much better, sometimes we go looking for something and miss the fact that it's been there all along we were just too blinded to see it. I wish you nothing but the best in repairing your marriage. Thank you sir!
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theWILLmckoy
Heisman Candidate
WE LIVE AS KINGS, BUT JESUS IS GOD! - Swoope
Posts: 905
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Post by theWILLmckoy on May 13, 2015 14:02:39 GMT -5
So I've totally let go and tried to forget about Janell. I feel much better than I did last week! GOD is great folks! I walked away from him for a lil while and my responsibilities as a husband, but his grace has allowed me to come back home and reconcile with my wifey! I should've never allowed my lust to lead me and away so easily and tear down all I had! I'm now fully invested in repairing my marriage and, with the help of the Lord, mend my wife's broken heart. Thank you all for your input and advice. I know I haven't posted in this thread before, but this makes me so happy to hear. I wish you and your wife the best and hope y'all have a better marriage than ever before. Don't give up. I definitely won't. I plan on making it better than ever! Thanks!
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Post by Divebitch on May 13, 2015 14:13:41 GMT -5
Totally blown away by this. Never would've given you any advice for Janell knowing there was any hope in saving your marriage. So you now see "all I had", and are "fully invested". Don't wanna be a Debbie Downer, but what if Janell didn't shut you down stone cold? Maybe it's all good, a sign that things happens for a reason. But I think you need to take a good look at yourself and what was wrong with your marriage in the first place. Strange to think of a wife as the 'rebound' woman, but... Good luck.
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Post by EagleDomiKnation on May 13, 2015 18:28:06 GMT -5
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Post by 101mitch on May 13, 2015 19:16:47 GMT -5
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Post by Jancey on May 13, 2015 20:02:09 GMT -5
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