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Post by Deleted on Feb 12, 2014 22:36:26 GMT -5
I've been through hell and back with some users. Most of em' I'm good friends with now. A LOT of it was my own fault. I realize that I'm not always right, sometimes downright crazy. Many people here want you to stick around, so cut the shit, and cut it out. There is NO way you'll EVER please EVERYONE, ALL the time. However, that's just fine. Many people like you for just being you, and that should NOT change. It's okay to speak what's on your mind/your opinion. When you're wrong, and you realize you're wrong, just admit....apologize...and move on. Anyone that wants to hold a grudge, will eventually get over it. If not, so the fuck what?!?!?We're ALL gonna be wrong about shit, we're human, but that shouldn't stop anyone from giving their opinions. I've never noticed anyone say anything negative about you. I think the problem is all in your own head. Stick around, I also have voices in my head to deal with, lol. You're in good company......we ALL do.
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Post by Jancey on Feb 12, 2014 22:45:40 GMT -5
Great to hear from you bung..okay probably not the time for that. We really have all missed ya here, and we wish you would come back and stay, but I get it if you don't. Best o' luck, man. Oh, and Geno still sucks.
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Post by Divebitch on Feb 12, 2014 23:27:45 GMT -5
Just to be clear, I am leaving because of real life issues, not because of you guys. Its unfortunate for you guys, but due to my problems, its been taken out on you guys in the process, and I fear it will not stop and eventually I will cross a line of no return. I left for 3 months because of work though and pretty much just forgot about you, in hopes that when I come back, my attitude will change. But it hasn't, I am still the same asshole I was when I left, and that's a problem because I do not want to be a cancer on here. So its better if I leave with whatever pride I have now, then leave on a bad note. Divebitch-I wanted to save the best for last here, but I will be very clear about it too. I didn't leave because of Nateball if thats what your wondering. That was a very bad incident on my part, and that's something I very much regretted doing. So bad that panther even made it clear to me, and pretty much was why i demoted my mod powers. And I don't care if what i'm about to say is gonna get me in more trouble, because I was told to keep this to myself, because it would start something. But I will be honest, I never liked Nateball and I never will. I figured because of my mod powers, I could bully him to stop acting like a major douche, but it didn't work. It riled up a lot of people which surprised me, and that was basically when I realized what a prick I have turned into. It didn't matter if I didn't like him, because alot of other people respected him, and I have to respect the decision by others. But that was just a bad day for me, and not a reason as to why I left. But lets remember dive, he wasn't the only one. The RG3 vs Luck vs Wilson thread was another instant where i said some really stupid things, which was not that long ago for the nateball incident. And look at me now, I was wrong about Wilson. lol. I went off on eagledom for another stupid reason, and I left for a month because of it. The last one was actually plax believe it or not, which had to do with the survivor series picks. I blasted him about that and wasn't heard from since. But to be honest, something happened to me (which I am not inclined to tell you guys yet) that put me in a shitty mood before that, and sadly for plax, he was my target for that moment. I have been on a different site now, and I plan on staying there for now on. I only use it to talk bengals football, nothing else. No other teams, just my team. And I am glad to say I have kept my cool on there, because I have been posting there the last 5 months. But of course I am not that active like I use to be compared to nfl.com or on here. I promise everyone that I will explain what my problems are as to why I acted the way I did. But I am not ready to disclose of it yet, because I feel like its not the right time to explain it. All I can do now is explain what has happened on here, but some of the stuff outside of here is not up for discussion just yet. You will have your answers, and then my chapter shall end. I'm flattered, really. Getting real tired, but wanna reply tonight. Those threads you mention, no one (okay just not me? lol) remembers that. You should see though that everyone remembers you, and the good they've seen in you that would be sorely missed. I don't think you owe anyone an explanation as to what problems you have/have had. Can only speak for myself, so will say my door is always open, no doubt many feel the same. It's fine IMO to speak your truth. Doubt Nateball would lose any sleep. Wanna keep this part super brief. Lemme just say I've always known he was widely misunderstood. Some couldn't get past his exterior/potty mouth lol and see the humor, Bills anguish, etc. hehe He's one of the very best people here IMO. The anti-douche. Seems there are more people here I rub the wrong way than Nate does. I'd love to see ya see more often. You don't have to pick one site or the other. You don't have to like everybody either. Take the good, shake the bad.
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Post by cantonhall34 on Feb 13, 2014 3:48:20 GMT -5
I'm so lost, because I've never thought poorly of Bengal...as a matter of fact I was wondering where he was.
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Post by steelersfan4life56 on Feb 13, 2014 9:07:53 GMT -5
@bengalmania2 Hey man do what's good for you, that is what matters more than a silly NFL blog if that's causing you some problems. But I'd hope the people here wouldn't take arguments on a football all too serious, even if things got heated we all still realize that we have respect for one another. So I'm sure there's very very little ill will, if any at all. I also realize that there is/has been very little Bengal fans representing here or on NFL.com. The only way that'll change is to get more people to join the boards. I don't think I was that active here when you decided to leave, so I totally missed that and what NFL blog you joined. But if you're still having troubles finding more Bengal fans I'd suggest here www.cincyjungle.com/. You probably already know about it, but just in case. I'm not all that familiar with the commentators there, but the ones I have crossed ways with were pretty decent, but then again every community has their mixed bag. Good luck in the future though man.
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Post by Panther on Feb 14, 2014 0:41:06 GMT -5
@bengalmania2
Man, I'm glad to see you, even if you're bringing some really depressing news.
I gotta ask; why leave? What good will that do?
The only thing leaving will do is take away your access from us, the same people you called family not too long ago. You're also taking away our access from you. I'm sure I'm not the only one when I say that I've missed you here. When we moved over, you were one of our 'core members'. You were part of the reason we were active, being a huge part in mock drafts, running the pick'em, and more. You helped let this place be around for as long as it has.
You might've pissed some people off. You might have enemies. So what? Like Eddie said, you can't please everyone. How will leaving fix your relationship with them? Give them joy in knowing they no longer have to deal with you? If they don't like you that much, they can just put you on ignore.
Afraid of doing damage to the forum and picking more enemies? Man, you're going to make people like you less by leaving then you would by staying.
If you're gonna leave, you better give me a damn good reason, and I haven't read one yet.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 14, 2014 10:25:57 GMT -5
Bengal...I have to agree with what Panther and Eddie said.
Me and you have always been cool with each other Im sure. Yeah,you dont always agree with me...but most people dont here. LOL. I get it from every side and every which way. Its okay with me though.
You are not gonna always agree with people and you most certainly are not going to please everyone.
If you do decide to leave then I understand that you dont wanna deal with drama...But you will be missed around here and have been missed.
You are one of the most knowledgeable football minds I have met. So kudos to you in that aspect and good luck with whatever you decide.
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Post by saskabronco on Feb 14, 2014 10:57:15 GMT -5
@bengalmania2
I don't think we have crossed paths all that often on here, so I'll offer a bit of an outsider's opinion.
First of all, I haven't heard anyone say anything bad about you since I have been here and I enjoyed reading your posts. If you do in fact see yourself in a bad light and think your attitude hasn't been great, I would think that reading the responses that you have received in this thread should act as proof that you are a better, more likable person than you might think.
Second, I have been involved in many discussions, often involving personal matters like religion and politics. Those are the things that people can really take exception to and can really hurt feelings. But even people I have gotten into extremely heated debates with, with whom I completely disagree on several big issues, I still respect and still enjoy discussing things with. I have gotten into it with guys like JeffB, Rey and DanB, but then we will discuss something unrelated and completely agree on the topic. My point is that this forum has a great dynamic where guys (and ladies) can have disagreements and voice their opinions, whether you agree with them or not, but at the end of the day we are all still friends and can all still be civil to each other.
As is the group consensus here, I fully respect your decision to leave, if you do leave, but the dynamic here is different than any other forum I have been a part of and I think you'd be missing out if you left, and so would we.
Best of luck with whatever decision you make!
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Post by Deleted on Feb 14, 2014 11:09:16 GMT -5
So true Bronco...My mama always told me that if you value your friendships and relationships,never discuss religion and politics with em..lol. I didnt listen.
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Post by mitch9234 on Feb 14, 2014 12:17:57 GMT -5
Nearly everyone has voiced their opinion, I think it would be wrong if I didn't too.
You think people don't like you, but you're wrong. Some people, me included missed you.
You're the guy I most identify myself with. I've been in the same place as you too. At one point I also thought that I wasn't liked by anybody, then you said that I was one of your favorite members, and you told me to not sell myself short. That was really satisfying. I say the same to you now. Don't sell yourself short.
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